A Deeper Intimacy for Valentine’s Day
By Sam Dutton
Copyright 2012 Sam Dutton
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Table of Contents
How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex
Can Text Messaging Help to Improve Your Sex Life?
5 Signs Your Sex Life May Need Some Changes
4 Ways to Spice up Intimacy with Your Wife
Introduction
Hello and welcome to “A Deeper Intimacy for Valentine’s Day. This book is intended to share ideas on the difficult topic of intimacy, particularly sex and relationships, just in time for Valentine’s Day, 2012. Congratulations on taking the step to learn and study on methods of improving on the subject. This manual is intended for both men and women, and even better shared by intimate couples; therefore, opening the door to a time of sharing between you and your partner.
Many men feel frustrated when addressing the many issues involving sex and intimacy, and on the contrary, many women have been known to not say what’s on their mind when it comes to these matters. What many men fail to realize is that sex and intimacy are nothing more than an extension of the communication which already exists between you and your partner, and many times if these issues are compassionately addressed, a reasonable if not better outcome can be achieved. If communication is negative or not really there to begin with, then things like sex and intimacy have little to no ground to even stand on. The communication between you and your lover is a vital role in the development and achievement of a greater level of intimacy in the relationship.
I wanted to speak on these topics right from the start here, because that IS the place to start when trying to achieve a deeper level of intimacy with your partner. To put it bluntly, sex is great. There are not many people who would honestly disagree with that, so let’s take a look at how to make it a better and more enjoyable experience for you and your partner.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex
Are you married or in an intimate relationship? If you are, there are likely a lot of topics that you and your partner discuss throughout the day. Common conversation topics include work, friends, family, and bills. One topic that many couples do not always discuss, even though they should, is that of sex. Are you interested in improving your sex life? If you are, you may need to talk to your partner, but should you? This can seem extremely difficult at first, like not knowing how to start, or not know how your partner will respond. The answer is still yes, you should because you care about them, and sex is a big part of the relationship.
It is important to talk to your partner and establish an open line of communication, which is important to have a happy and healthy relationship in general. Poor communication may have a negative impact on your entire relationship, not just your sex life. Husbands who do not properly communicate with their wives often end up putting their relationships in harm’s way. Do not let this happen to you and your marriage. The same is true for those in other deep and intimate relationships; if it is worth doing, it is worth talking about. Your partner will respect you for wanting to talk about it as well.
If you do decide to talk to your partner about sex, namely improving your intimacy, it is important to proceed with caution. You do not want to criticize your partner or make them feel inadequate. Are you not having your desires filled? If so, don’t outright tell them that. Doing so may cause even more problems to arise. You do want to get the best level of intimacy possible, but you also don’t want to hurt your lover’s feelings in the process. For that reason, you may want to try a different approach. Consider suggesting new things in the bedroom, such as a new position or a weekend away.
When talking to your lover about sex, it is also important not to push too much. If you want to see an improvement in your sex, state so and give a few suggestions; however, do not keep on bringing the same topic back up. Give your partner a few days or even a few weeks to make adjustments in the bedroom. This time is needed because he or she may be hurt when they learn that you aren’t pleased by them sexually. It is natural for your partner to take time to think about the situation before taking action, which may involve implementing a few of your suggestions.